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Name: Dr. Noelle Berger
Profession: Counseling Psychologist
License Number: New York State License# 12261
Location: White Plains, NY
Education
1993 Ph.D. Counseling Psychology, SUNY at Buffalo
1993-1994 Postdoctoral Fellowship in psychotherapy with adolescents, Danbury Hospital, Danbury, CT
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Professional experience
1995-Present Private Practice in Manhattan and Westchester County, focused on psychotherapy, stress management, and biofeedback for adults, couples, families, adolescents and children.
2000-2006 Clinical Supervisor, The Epilepsy Institute, New York, NY
2000-2003 Director of Stress Management Program, The Epilepsy Institute, New York, NY
1999 Senior Psychologist, NYU Medical Center, Cardiac Rehabilitation Center, New York, NY
1997-1999 Consultant, The Center for Behavior Therapy, White Plains, NY
1997-2001 Clinical Supervisor, The Therapy Resource Center, New York, NY
1994-1996 Clinical Psychologist, State of Connecticut, Department of Mental Health, Bridgeport and Stamford, CT.
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Clinical interests
My clinical interests include psychotherapy for relationship issues, mood disorders, anxiety disorders, medical conditions, stress management training, and biofeedback.
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Practice information
I work privately with adults, couples, families, adolescents and children, providing psychotherapy, biofeedback, and stress management training.
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Personal relationship status
I have been married 6 years and my daughter is 3.
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Love-Life biography
After many years of dating men who were OK, but not “the one”, I decided to be very proactive and place an ad on an internet dating site. Everyone thought I was crazy, because it was not a popular thing to do at the time. It was pre- match.com. This is where I met my husband of four years.
The moral of this story is that sometimes you have to take risks to find what you are looking for. Also, it is important to be “ready” for a relationship before you undertake one. Prior to taking the initiative to actively search for someone I would be compatible with, I dated people who came into my life. I never actively sought out relationships. I also never took the time to really figure out what I wanted in a partner and a relationship. I entered relationships haphazardly and when they weren’t working out, I left them haphazardly. Many times I never resolved issues which came up. I found out that often unresolved issues follow you and rear their ugly heads again and again until you work them out. All this might sound strange coming from a psychologist, who should probably be able to resolve everything in her life easily because of her professional knowledge. However, shrinks are people too and make the same mistakes as everyone else. That is the only way you learn and develop as an individual.
After pretty much sailing through my early life, I went through a personal crisis at the age of 29 when my father suddenly died. For a period of three years, I was virtually paralyzed when it came to dating. I had very little interest in meeting anyone I could have a serious relationship with. I was too busy working and resolving my grief over my father’s death. He had been the most important man in my life. When he disappeared suddenly, I lost my anchor and I drifted aimlessly. After three years of resolving my grief, I finally realized that I needed to focus on building a personal life for myself. My career was going well, but I didn’t have much of a social life. Although I had always been very social in the past, my career and my grief had consumed most of my energy. When I restarted my social life, I mostly went on dates with people I met through other people. I was letting other people choose my dates. After a particularly bad relationship which culminated in being stood up on my 32nd birthday, I finally decided to reevaluate my personal relationships. I also decided to seriously think about what I really wanted in a relationship.
When I finally figured out what I wanted in a relationship, I was able to figure out what kind of man I was looking for. This made it easier to find my husband or to get him to find me. I finally was open enough to give a “nice guy” a chance to be my partner. I do not think that I ever would have met him if I had not placed that personal ad on the internet. Since this experience, I have coached other people on the subject of internet dating. It is not for everyone, but it is a great resource for busy people who don’t have a lot of time to go out and meet people in more “traditional” ways. In life, different doors will open different opportunities. You have the power to either step through the door or to shut the door. You are the captain of your ship.
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