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Name: Dr. Dara Gasior
Profession: Clinical Psychologist
License Number: New York State License # 015287
Location: Marlboro, New Jersey
Education
2000 Psy.D., Clinical Psychology, Ferkauf Graduate School of Psychology, Yeshiva University
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Professional experience
2002 – Present Program Coordinator, Adolescent Psychiatric Services Cranford, New Jersey
2000 – 2002 Staff Clinician, outpatient mental health services, Bronx, New York
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Clinical interests
My clinical interests involve working with adolescents and adults in group, family, individual and couples work in order to better help them understand themselves through the interpersonal realm. My experience has taught me that we come to define ourselves through our interactions and relationships with others, whether those close to us or individuals just passing through our lives. Unfortunately, many times as people we do not fully understand our behavior, our feelings, our biases and our fears and anxieties which affect the nature and quality of those interactions. Therefore, throughout my clinical work, whether working with adolescents in crises or adults struggling with marital problems, I have come to value basic social needs and skills including: conflict resolution, communication skills, coping skills and increased awareness of one’s own interpersonal needs and expectations. It is my belief that although we as people are taught to expect love, frequently we are never accurately taught how to identify, nurture, sustain or create that love. I consider a huge part of my job to help people do just that: recognize the love that they have in their life and learn from that love how to surround themselves with more of it.
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Personal relationship status
I am a newlywed, married 6 months. No children (yet).
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Love-Life biography
I was a single girl living in New York City for 10 years while working on my doctorate and beginning to set and define my goals for myself. Throughout that time, I was fortunate to be surrounded by wonderful friends who made the experience of dating manageable. I struggled to meet people and told myself all of the usual things, “there are no good men in New York” “I don’t have time for a relationship right now,” all the clichés and rationalizations that I needed to cope with the fear and anxiety that I may not ever find the right man. During that time, I had more fun than I can describe as my friends and I planned and enacted all kinds of schemes about how to meet people, we did ski houses and beach houses, volunteered all over New York and tried speed dating, internet dating and blind dating. I had great first dates that never called me back, and horrible first dates that would not go away. Through it all, I began to recognize that although some of the problem was that I was not meeting the right men, a big part of the problem was me, that I was scared of truly falling in love and rather than chance getting my heart broken, I found a new skill of turning all the men who might be right for me into my new best friends.
After many years of being single, living alone and making the best of it, my friends began to get married; one by one my peers were off to new homes, new lives and new relationships. I finally took a chance, met a great man and fell hard in love. Unfortunately, I fell very hard, very fast and only after being with him for two years and discussing marriage did I recognize that I had fallen for a man who was not able to give me what I wanted and needed. After all of those things I did to try and protect myself and ensure that I could not get my heart broken, there I was, alone, scared and heart broken. At the time, I was convinced that I had lost my one chance at love, and began to prepare myself for the possibility that I would be alone. My best friend, who had been with me through it all (and for the record, hated every boyfriend I had ever had, including the one that just broke my heart) convinced me that I needed to move on, and before I moved into a new apartment, that I was to go on five dates. I did, the first one was a nightmare and I wanted to cry, the second was a nice man, but not for me. Then I went on the third date, a date I almost cancelled because I DID NOT like this man on the phone. I walked in with low expectations (and really only went because it was at one of my favorite restaurants and figured nothing could be that bad if I was there) took one look at this man and said “he’s not my type.” Well, I was wrong. We talked, we laughed and I agreed to see him again. Now, he is my husband (and my best friend loves him.)
Currently, my love life consists of the challenge of a new marriage, moving away from my friends in New York and moving closer to both families of origin. Despite the challenges, I have to admit that I am having the time of my life and learning more about myself and relationships than ever before. It is my pleasure to try to share some of what I have learned with you.
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